So I finally watched “The Secret” recently. How can it be a secret if it’s about the same thing the movie “What the Bleep …” is about, and that came out years ago? Anyway, I do believe that our thoughts create the life we lead, and that we have more power over our circumstances than we are willing to admit.

I used to constantly tell myself negative things and only focus on the bad things in my life or all the things that I don’t have. I was never happy and never able to improve my circumstances. When I accepted myself as I am and had gratitude for my life, I was able to gain some positive energy to make even more changes in my life.

The Law of Attraction has helped me to face my binge eating, helped me to get at least two jobs (including the one I have now), and I think that positive focus is what helped me to pick the ideal college for myself when I was 18.

I don’t agree with all the stuff said in “The Secret.”

1. I don’t think that God is like a genie and will give us everything we ask for just because we ask. I agree that we, as human, don’t ask the universe for help enough – there is more out there for us than we realize and God does want us to be happy. But God is not my cosmic personal assistant. He has better things to do with His time than find me good parking spots.
2. One guy said that our destinies are not written on a big blackboard in the sky. We create our own destinies. I’m not so sure about that. Life is not random and my life is not 100% controlled by my whims and desires. I believe in free will, but I also know that each of us is on this earth for a reason. I have some say in what that reason(s) is, but God has a plan for me that I’m not meant to fully understand. God is in control, not me (and I’m grateful for that. I can really screw things up when I try to control everything).

That being said, there are a few areas of my life where I have been focusing on the negative or have been ignoring parts of my life because I feel like I can’t do anything about it. Those two big problem areas for me are finances and dating. (Golly, I bet I’m the only person in the world with money and love problems …)

As far as my finances go, I will stop focusing on getting out of debt because that will only bring more debt to me. Instead I will do the footwork and stick too my payment plans, then focus on abundance. If I think, feel and visualize abundance then abundance will be attracted to me.

When it comes to love and relationships, I need to feel and visualize the type of people I want in my life. Imagine myself interacting with people. My problem is that I always imagine “ideal” me in good relationships, never the real me. I need to see myself, my true self, as worthy of positive relationships and then I will attract good people toward me.

Maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. But at least I’ll keep my thought in a positive place, which is always a good idea.