A friend reminded me that if I am not sure if I should speak up, to ask myself three questions:
- Does it need to be said?
- Do I need to say it?
- Does it need to be said now or can it wait?
These are good questions that will keep me from putting my foot in my mouth. It reminded me to THINK before I speak.
In any situation, whatever I say should fit one or more of these criteria:
T = Thoughtful
H = Honest or Helpful
I = Inspiring
N = Necessary
K = Kind
How many hurt feeling and arguments can we all avoid when THINK before we speak? Would we choose our words differently?
Thanks, Denise. Nice post. I especially like the second question — do I need to be the one to say it?
Great article Denise. I know so many people that say what they want and use the excuse that they always speak the “truth” and if the truth hurts – then so be it.
It’s nice to read an article about the power of speaking and the damage it can cause.
Thank You!